Carrie Jones, LPC - LifeVision Counseling, LLC

Licensed Professional Counselor in Richmond, Virginia

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The Intentional New Year

Embracing A Fresh Start for Growth and Well-being

As the calendar turns to a new year, many of us reflect on the past and look ahead to what the future might bring. The New Year offers a sense of renewal, a chance to reset and reassess our goals, habits, and mental well-being. It’s a time when we can look at our lives with fresh eyes, seeking ways to grow, learn, and become the best version of ourselves.

While the tradition of New Year’s resolutions is popular, it’s important to approach this time not with pressure or perfectionism, but with mindfulness and compassion. New Year’s offers an opportunity to reflect, not just on what we want to change, but on how we want to feel, grow, and connect in the coming year.

Here are a few tips to help you embrace the New Year in a healthy, balanced way:

1. Practice Self-Compassion

Starting a new year often brings with it expectations and hopes for improvement. While it’s normal to want change, it’s also essential to be kind to yourself. If you didn’t meet all of your goals from last year, that’s okay. Life is full of setbacks and challenges. The key is to treat yourself with the same care and understanding that you would offer a close friend. Approach the year with patience, allowing yourself to evolve naturally rather than demanding instant transformations.

2. Set Intentions, Not Just Resolutions

While New Year’s resolutions tend to focus on specific goals, intentions are broader, more flexible guiding principles. Instead of simply aiming for a weight loss goal or a specific career achievement, set an intention to prioritize balance, well-being, or growth. Intentions help you remain open to the process of change, which is often more important than any final outcome.

For example, you might set an intention to “be more present” with your loved ones, or “embrace new learning opportunities.” These can guide your actions throughout the year, while also allowing room for unexpected growth.

3. Focus on Mental and Emotional Health

The New Year is a perfect time to refocus on your mental and emotional well-being. Stress, anxiety, and burnout are common struggles, but there are steps we can take to manage them better. Whether it’s starting a daily meditation practice, engaging in regular physical activity, or seeking support through therapy, taking care of your mental health should be a priority.

Remember that well-being is not just about feeling happy all the time, but about acknowledging your emotions and taking proactive steps to cope with them. Check in with yourself regularly about how you’re feeling, and take the time to nurture your emotional health.

4. Celebrate Small Wins

Oftentimes, we focus so much on the big milestones that we forget to celebrate the small victories along the way. Achieving goals, no matter how small they may seem, is a testament to your progress and resilience. Whether it’s maintaining a healthy routine for a week or having a meaningful conversation with someone, each step forward matters. Acknowledging these small successes can help build confidence and motivation to continue on your path.

5. Strengthen Connections

The New Year is a perfect time to strengthen your relationships with family, friends, and your community. Social connections play a key role in our overall well-being, and investing in these bonds can bring immense joy and support. Whether it’s reaching out to someone you haven’t spoken to in a while or planning more quality time with your loved ones, relationships are an essential part of feeling connected and fulfilled.

6. Accept the Impermanence of Life

Life is constantly changing, and so are we. The New Year reminds us that nothing is fixed, and that we have the power to shape our future through our choices. Rather than resisting change, embrace it. View this time as an opportunity to explore new paths, learn from your experiences, and grow from challenges. Trust in the process, knowing that each year brings its own lessons and possibilities.

7. Take Time to Rest

Finally, don’t forget the importance of rest and self-care. The New Year can be a time of excitement and action, but it’s equally important to honor your need for rest. In a world that often encourages constant productivity, taking time to recharge allows you to show up as your best self—physically, mentally, and emotionally. Prioritize sleep, engage in hobbies that bring you joy, and make space for moments of peace and relaxation.

The New Year is an opportunity to reflect, reset, and move forward with intention. By approaching it with kindness, patience, and a focus on well-being, you can make the most of this fresh start. Embrace the journey ahead, knowing that each day holds the potential for growth, connection, and fulfillment. I’m here to help if you’d like a partner in moving toward possibility, progress, and peace.

Purpose Work

The Importance of Doing Your Purpose Work  

Have you ever felt a deep yearning to do something that truly matters—not just to pay the bills or meet societal expectations, but to fulfill a sense of meaning and alignment with who you are? That’s the essence of purpose work: engaging in actions, projects, or careers that resonate with your core values and passions.

Purpose work isn’t just about having a job or pursuing a goal. It’s about intentionally contributing to the world in ways that feel deeply personal and meaningful to you. But why is doing your purpose work so important, and how does it shape a fulfilling life?

What Is Purpose Work?  

Purpose work isn’t limited to a specific role or industry. It can take many forms:

– Raising a family with love and care

– Creating art that inspires others

– Advocating for a cause you believe in

– Running a business that aligns with your values

– Teaching, mentoring, or healing others

-Helping animals, people, or the environment

Purpose work is less about what you do and more about why you do it. It’s the driving force behind your actions, guided by your passions, strengths, and sense of contribution to the greater good.

Why Purpose Work Matters

1. It Provides Meaning

Living without purpose often feels hollow, like going through the motions without direction. Purpose work gives your life meaning by aligning your daily efforts with your larger values and desires. It transforms routine tasks into intentional actions.

2. It Fuels Motivation and Resilience 

When you’re connected to your purpose, challenges feel less daunting. Purpose work gives you a reason to persevere when the going gets tough because you know what you’re working toward matters deeply to you.

3. It Enhances Well-Being 

Research shows that living with purpose improves mental and physical health. People who engage in meaningful work often experience higher levels of life satisfaction, lower stress, and even greater longevity.

4. It Inspires Others  

When you live and work with purpose, you shine your light and inspire others to do the same. Purpose-driven people create ripples of positivity, helping to shape communities and organizations where meaning and impact are prioritized over superficial metrics of success. By giving yourself permission to follow your own purpose work path, it gives others permission as well.

5. It Reflects Your Unique Contribution

No one else has your exact combination of skills, experiences, and passions. Purpose work allows you to offer something truly unique to the world, whether it’s through a creative endeavor, a relationship, or a career.

How to Discover Your Purpose Work

Finding your purpose work isn’t always straightforward, but it’s a journey worth taking. Here are steps to help you uncover and live your purpose:

1. Reflect on What Fills You with Energy

What lights you up? Think about the moments when you feel most alive, engaged, and joyful. Purpose work often aligns with activities or causes that energize you.

2. Identify Your Strengths  

What are you naturally good at? Purpose work often lies at the intersection of your talents and passions.

3. Listen to Your Inner Voice

What resonates with you? Tune out societal pressures or external expectations and ask yourself: What do I really want? Your purpose is deeply personal and may not match conventional ideas of success.

4. Look for Patterns 

Reflect on your past experiences to find recurring themes. Is there a common thread in the activities or roles that have brought you fulfillment?

5. Start Small  

You don’t need to overhaul your life overnight to engage in purpose work. Begin by integrating small, meaningful actions into your daily routine.

6. Be Open to Evolution

Your purpose work may shift over time as you grow and change. Stay open to new opportunities and allow your purpose to evolve naturally.

Living Your Purpose Work Every Day 

You don’t have to quit your job, move to a new city, or start a nonprofit to live your purpose. Here’s how to incorporate purpose into your daily life:

– Align Your Work: If your current job doesn’t align with your purpose, consider how you can bring your values into your role.

– Prioritize Your Passions: Make time for the activities that bring you joy and meaning, even if they’re not part of your career.

– Cultivate Connections: Surround yourself with people who support and inspire your purpose-driven path.

– Practice Gratitude: Regularly reflect on the ways your work and actions contribute to your sense of purpose.

-Help In Some Way: Find the need that you feel called to fill. Help someone or something outside of yourself.

The Ripple Effect of Purpose Work  

When you engage in your purpose work, the benefits extend far beyond yourself. You create a positive ripple effect, inspiring others to find and live their own purpose. Purpose-driven individuals often foster stronger communities, healthier relationships, and a greater sense of shared meaning in the world.

A Final Thought  

Living with purpose isn’t about achieving perfection or constantly striving for grand accomplishments. It’s about intentionally aligning your actions with your values, passions, and strengths—day by day, moment by moment.

Ask yourself: “What can I do today that feels purposeful?” Then take a small step in that direction. Purpose work is less about the destination and more about the journey of living authentically and meaningfully.

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Looking to Clarify Your Purpose?  

If you’re feeling uncertain about your purpose or how to incorporate it into your life, therapy can help. Together, we can explore your values, strengths, and passions to help you live with intention and fulfillment. Reach out today to start the journey toward purpose-driven living!

What Do You Want Most In Life?

A Path to Clarifying Your Values 

We often go about our lives playing out our subconscious believes, patterns, and habits over and over every day. Many of us wake up early, go to school or work, come home, eat dinner, take care of household chores, zone out, and go to bed. We hope for the day when we can retire and then finally have time to enjoy life. But, our minds know that “someday” isn’t a guarantee. We can feel, in our souls, that we should be living life now. We sense that there must be a path to feel fulfilled. So, how can we begin to live more authentic lives? Although it is a thought many of us avoid, by recognizing that the length of time in our physical bodies on Earth is unknown and finite, we can recognize the importance of living each moment to the fullest. If you feel comfortable exploring, we can shrink this time to a more imaginable timeline so we can see what is most valuable to us.

What Would You Do with 3 Months to Live?

Imagine this: You’ve just been told you have three months to live. All your financial obligations are taken care of, your end-of-life plans and documents are in place, and there’s nothing left to organize. With no logistical worries to manage, the only question that remains is: “How would you spend your time?”

This thought experiment is more than a hypothetical—it’s a powerful tool for uncovering your values, focusing on what truly matters, and learning how to integrate those priorities into your life right now.

Step 1: Reflect on What Matters Most 

When faced with a finite timeline, our choices often become clearer. Start by asking yourself these questions:

– Who would you want to spend time with?

– What experiences would you seek out?

– What legacy or impact would you want to leave behind?

– Are there any relationships you’d want to mend?

– What brings you the most joy, peace, or fulfillment?

Take a few moments to jot down your thoughts. Don’t overthink it—write whatever comes to mind, whether it’s “spend more time with my kids,” “travel to the mountains,” or “finally write that book.”

Step 2: Identify Your Core Values 

Your answers offer a window into your core values. These are the principles and priorities that guide your life—whether you’re fully aware of them or not. For example:

– If you wrote “spend time with loved ones,” you may value connection or family.

– If you listed “travel,” you may value adventure or freedom.

– If you noted “help others,” you might value service or impact.

Understanding your values is key to living intentionally. They act as a compass, helping you make decisions that align with what matters most.

Step 3: Evaluate How You’re Living Now

Once you’ve identified your values, take an honest look at how they show up in your daily life. Ask yourself:

– Am I really prioritizing what’s most important to me or am I putting it off until “someday?”

– What am I giving too much energy to that doesn’t align with my values?

– What’s one small change I can make today to live more in line with what I care about?

For example, if family is a core value, but work is consuming most of your time, consider how you can create more space for your loved ones.

Step 4: Create a Life That Reflects Your Values 

Here’s where the magic happens: You don’t have to wait for a life-altering diagnosis to start living in alignment with your values. Use this reflection to reshape your priorities now.

Incorporate What Matters into Your Everyday Life: 

– If connection is important, schedule regular calls or visits with loved ones.

– If adventure excites you, plan mini-adventures like exploring a new park or trying a new hobby.

– If creativity lights you up, carve out time each week to paint, write, or build.

Let Go of What No Longer Serves You:  

– Reassess commitments that drain your energy or don’t align with your values.

– Learn to say no to opportunities that detract from what’s most important.

Focus on the Present Moment:  

– Practice gratitude for the people, experiences, and opportunities you have now.

– Spend less time worrying about the future or dwelling on the past—life is happening right now.

Step 5: Live with Purpose

Ultimately, the “three months to live” exercise isn’t about planning for the end of life—it’s about creating a life that feels full and meaningful today. By aligning your actions with your values, you can:

– Feel more fulfilled in your everyday routines.

– Strengthen your relationships and connections.

– Experience a deeper sense of peace and purpose.

A Final Thought  

We often wait for “someday” to start living the life we truly want. But the truth is, life is unpredictable, and someday isn’t guaranteed. By clarifying your values and making intentional choices now, you can create a life that feels rich, meaningful, and aligned with what matters most—starting today.

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Ready to Explore What Matters Most?  

If you’re feeling disconnected from your values or unsure how to create a more intentional life, therapy can help. Together, we can explore what’s important to you and how to design a life that reflects your deepest priorities. Reach out today to start your journey toward purposeful living.

Gratitude Lists

Gratitude Lists: A Simple Practice with Powerful Results

In a world that often feels overwhelming, taking a moment to focus on what’s going well can feel like a radical act. Gratitude lists—a simple practice of writing down things you’re thankful for—offer a powerful way to shift your mindset and cultivate a sense of peace and joy.

As a counselor, I’ve seen firsthand how gratitude lists can transform the way we experience life. It’s not about ignoring challenges or pretending everything is perfect. Instead, it’s about finding balance by choosing to notice the good, even in difficult times.

The Science of Gratitude  

Gratitude isn’t just a feel-good buzzword; it has measurable benefits for mental and physical health. Research shows that regularly practicing gratitude can:

– Decrease symptoms of anxiety and depression.

– Improve sleep quality.

– Strengthen relationships and social connections.

– Increase resilience and emotional regulation.

Gratitude helps rewire the brain by encouraging it to focus on positive experiences. This doesn’t mean dismissing negative emotions; it simply means broadening your perspective to include what’s good, too.

How to Start a Gratitude List  

Creating a gratitude list is simple, but like any habit, it requires consistency. Here’s how to get started:

1. Choose Your Medium  

Decide how you want to write your list. Options include:

– A dedicated gratitude journal.

– A notes app on your phone.

– Sticky notes that you can display on your mirror or desk.

2. Set Aside Time  

Consistency is key. Set a specific time to reflect and write your list. Many people find it helpful to do this in the morning to set a positive tone or in the evening to end the day on a high note.

3. Keep It Simple  

Your list doesn’t need to be elaborate. Start with three to five things you’re grateful for. They can be big or small, profound or ordinary. For example:

– A supportive friend.

– The warmth of your morning coffee.

– A moment of quiet before your day began.

4. Be Specific  

Instead of saying, “I’m grateful for my family,” try “I’m grateful for the hug my child gave me this morning.” Specificity deepens the emotional connection to what you’re writing.

5. Expand Beyond the Good

Gratitude doesn’t have to be limited to perfect moments. You can even find gratitude in challenges. For instance:

– “I’m grateful for the lesson I learned from a tough conversation.”

– “I’m thankful I had the strength to get through a hard day.”

Variations to Keep It Fresh  

Gratitude lists are incredibly versatile. If the daily routine starts to feel stale, try these variations:

– Theme Days: Focus on a specific area each day, such as relationships, nature, or personal growth.

– Gratitude Jar: Write each item on a slip of paper and add it to a jar. At the end of the year, review your collection.

– Shared Gratitude: Create a family or household list where everyone contributes something they’re thankful for.

– Photo Gratitude: Instead of writing, take a photo each day of something you’re grateful for.

-Collage Gratitude: Collect magazine pictures and words that represent things you feel grateful for in your own life. Paste into a journal, scrapbook, or poster that you can flip through later.

Overcoming Common Challenges 

“I Can’t Think of Anything.”

Start small. Gratitude doesn’t have to be earth-shattering. Even simple things like “clean water” or “sunshine” are valid and meaningful.

“I’m Too Busy.”

The beauty of gratitude lists is that they can be as brief as you need them to be. Even one minute of reflection can make a difference.

“It Feels Forced.”

If it feels awkward at first, that’s okay. Gratitude is a skill, and like any skill, it gets easier with practice. Over time, you’ll start to notice things to be grateful for without even trying.

The Ripple Effect of Gratitude  

One of the most beautiful aspects of gratitude lists is how they ripple outward. By focusing on the positive, you’re likely to feel more patient, generous, and connected to others. This can improve your relationships, boost your mood, and even inspire those around you to practice gratitude too.

A Quick Gratitude Exercise  

Let’s practice! Take a moment to think about three things you’re grateful for right now. Write them down, say them out loud, or just hold them in your mind. Notice how this small act makes you feel.

Gratitude lists may be simple, but their impact is profound. With just a few minutes each day, you can nurture a habit that brings more positivity, resilience, and joy into your life.

A Longer Gratitude Exercise

Challenge yourself to write a list of 50 or 100 things you’re grateful for. Start writing and don’t stop moving your pen until the page is full!

So, what are you grateful for today?

Embracing Your Authentic Self: The Path to True Fulfillment

In a world that often encourages conformity, the journey to becoming your authentic self can feel daunting. Yet, it is one of the most rewarding paths you can take. As a licensed professional counselor, I want to share with you the importance of being authentically you and provide some gentle guidance on how to embark on this transformative journey.

Why Authenticity Matters

  1. Inner Peace: When you embrace your true self, you cultivate a sense of inner peace. You no longer feel the need to wear masks or conform to societal expectations. This authenticity allows you to live in alignment with your values and beliefs, reducing internal conflict and stress.

  2. Stronger Relationships: Authenticity fosters deeper connections with others. When you are genuine, you attract people who appreciate you for who you truly are. This leads to more meaningful relationships built on trust and understanding.

  3. Increased Resilience: Being true to yourself enhances your resilience. You become more equipped to handle life’s challenges because you are grounded in your identity. This self-awareness empowers you to navigate obstacles with confidence.

  4. Fulfillment and Joy: Living authentically opens the door to a more fulfilling life. You are more likely to pursue passions and interests that resonate with you, leading to greater joy and satisfaction.

How to Be Authentically You

  1. Self-Reflection: Take time to reflect on who you are. What are your values, passions, and beliefs? Journaling can be a powerful tool for this process. Write down your thoughts and feelings to gain clarity about your true self.

  2. Embrace Vulnerability: Authenticity requires vulnerability. It’s okay to show your true emotions and share your experiences with others. This openness not only strengthens your connections but also allows you to accept yourself fully.

  3. Set Boundaries: Being authentic means knowing your limits. Learn to say no when something doesn’t align with your values or when it drains your energy. Setting healthy boundaries is essential for maintaining your authenticity.

  4. Surround Yourself with Support: Seek out relationships that encourage your authenticity. Surround yourself with people who celebrate you for who you are and inspire you to grow. Positive relationships can significantly impact your journey toward authenticity.

  5. Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself throughout this process. Understand that it’s okay to make mistakes and that growth takes time. Treat yourself with the same love and understanding you would offer a dear friend.

  6. Explore Your Passions: Engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Whether it’s painting, hiking, writing, or volunteering, pursuing your passions can help you connect with your authentic self. These activities not only provide joy but also allow you to express who you truly are.

  1. Seek Professional Guidance: Sometimes, the journey to authenticity can be challenging, and that’s okay. Working with a licensed professional counselor can provide you with the support and tools you need to navigate this path. Therapy can help you uncover layers of your identity, address any fears or insecurities, and develop strategies to live more authentically.

Conclusion

Embracing your authentic self is a courageous and transformative journey. It requires self-reflection, vulnerability, and a commitment to living in alignment with your true values. Remember, you are worthy of love and acceptance just as you are. By being authentically you, you not only enrich your own life but also inspire those around you to do the same.

If you’re ready to embark on this journey and explore what it means to be your true self, I invite you to reach out. Together, we can navigate the complexities of your identity and work towards a more fulfilling and authentic life. You don’t have to do this alone; I’m here to support you every step of the way.

With love and unconditional positive regard,
Carrie Jones, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor

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