Carrie Jones, LPC - LifeVision Counseling, LLC

Licensed Professional Counselor in Richmond, Virginia

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Pattern Interrupts: Scratch The Disc

Breaking Free from Old Programming: The Power of Pattern Interrupts

Sometimes people struggle to break free from repetitive patterns that no longer serve them. Whether it’s a destructive thought loop, self-sabotaging behavior, or an emotional response that feels automatic, these patterns are often remnants of old programming. They are habits rooted in past experiences and reinforced over time.

The good news? You don’t have to stay stuck. One of the most powerful tools for rewiring your mind and creating change is the concept of pattern interrupts.

What Are Pattern Interrupts?

A pattern interrupt is a conscious action that disrupts a habitual thought, emotion, or behavior. Imagine you’re watching a movie, and suddenly the screen freezes or the audio cuts out—your brain snaps out of the story and becomes alert. That’s the effect of a pattern interrupt: it jars you out of autopilot and creates an opportunity to make a different choice.

Our brains thrive on routines because they save energy. But when those routines are unhealthy or unhelpful, interrupting them creates a gap where awareness and change can take place.

Why Old Programming Sticks

Old programming often forms in response to experiences where we learned how to survive, avoid pain, or seek connection. For example:

  • Self-doubt might stem from a childhood where criticism was common.
  • Overworking might be a coping mechanism for feeling unworthy without constant achievement.
  • Emotional reactivity might arise from unresolved trauma that wired you to perceive threats.

Over time, these patterns become hardwired, running like background software in your mind. Left unchecked, they govern your decisions, reactions, and even your relationships.

How Pattern Interrupts Work

Pattern interrupts disrupt the mental or emotional flow, creating a moment of awareness. This interruption gives you the power to pause, reflect, and choose a new response. Here’s how it works:

  1. Recognition: Notice the pattern as it’s happening. For example, if you’re spiraling into negative self-talk, practice recognizing it in the moment.
  2. Disruption: Take an action that shifts your state. This could be as simple as clapping your hands, snapping your fingers, humming a few notes, or even doing a push-up – anything that interrupts the pattern. It can help to choose a pattern-interrupt that’s silly or unusual.
  3. Reframe: Use the moment of awareness to choose a new thought or action that aligns with your goals.

Examples of Pattern Interrupts

Here are some practical ways to break free from old programming:

  1. Physical Interrupts: Movement is a quick way to shift energy. If you find yourself stuck in a negative loop, stand up, stretch, or go for a brisk walk. Even splashing cold water on your face can work wonders.
  2. Verbal Interrupts: Say something aloud to disrupt your thought process. For example, shout “Nope!” or ask yourself, “Is this thought even true?”
  3. Sensory Interrupts: Use your senses to ground and orient yourself in the present. Light a candle with a soothing scent, listen to uplifting music, or hold an ice cube in your hand to jolt yourself into the moment.
  4. Behavioral Interrupts: Do something unexpected. If you’re stuck in procrastination, set a timer for two minutes and commit to just starting. This small action can disrupt inertia and build momentum.

Rewiring the Brain

The beauty of pattern interrupts is that, over time, they help to rewire your brain. Each time you interrupt a negative pattern and choose a healthier response, you’re creating a new neural pathway. This process, known as neuroplasticity, is how the brain adapts and forms new habits.

Consistency is key. The more you practice interrupting old patterns, the weaker they become. Over time, the healthier responses become your new default.

From Awareness to Transformation

Pattern interrupts are not just about stopping old habits—they’re about creating space for intentional living. When you interrupt a pattern, you’re reclaiming your power to choose how you think, feel, and act.

As you work on rewiring your old programming, remember to be patient with yourself. Transformation is a journey. Celebrate small victories and remind yourself that every time you choose differently, you’re reshaping your future.

You are not your old patterns—you are the conscious creator of your life.

What patterns are you ready to interrupt today?

Everything We Do Is About Emotions

Our choices may seem grounded in logic or practicality, but if you peel back the layers, you’ll find that they’re ultimately motivated by emotion. Beneath all our ambitions, relationships, and daily routines lies one simple truth: everything we do is an attempt to get closer to the emotions we want to feel.

Let’s unpack this idea by exploring how emotions shape our lives and the decisions we make.

# 1. **Our Goals Are Guided by Feelings**
– Imagine someone setting a career goal to earn a six-figure salary or even seven figures. At a glance, this goal seems driven by money, but the real driver is the emotional satisfaction they believe this will bring—perhaps feelings of security, pride, or the validation of their worth. If someone is aiming for a promotion or a fitness milestone, what’s at the core is often not the status or the health benefit but the feeling of accomplishment and confidence they expect to experience.

– Emotions like happiness, satisfaction, and fulfillment serve as the underlying motives for our aspirations. Our goals are less about the end achievement itself and more about the way we hope to feel when we reach them.

# 2. **Relationships and Emotional Fulfillment**
– Why do we seek relationships? Humans are inherently social, but we also crave emotional bonds because they offer a profound sense of love, belonging, and joy. Whether it’s friendship, romantic partnership, or family, relationships are largely about creating and sustaining feelings that make life richer and more meaningful.

– Even our interactions with acquaintances, neighbors, or coworkers are often influenced by how they make us feel. We gravitate towards people who make us feel good and avoid those who don’t. When we connect with others, we’re subconsciously choosing the emotions we want to welcome into our lives.

# 3. **Career Choices and Personal Satisfaction**
– People often assume careers are chosen based on practicality—what we’re good at or what will pay the bills. But deep down, we choose careers that make us feel accomplished, useful, or purposeful. For instance, someone may choose a career in teaching because it makes them feel they’re contributing positively to society, not necessarily for the paycheck.

– In jobs where these emotional needs go unmet, people frequently report dissatisfaction, burnout, and a desire to change paths. Ultimately, career decisions are often based on a quest for the emotions associated with fulfillment, respect, or purpose.

# 4. **Hobbies, Passions, and Joyful Moments**
– We engage in hobbies and passions not because they are essential for survival but because they evoke pleasure, creativity, or relaxation. Whether someone loves painting, gardening, or playing sports, each of these pursuits is rooted in the emotions they inspire.

– Moments of joy and flow—the times we lose ourselves in something we love—are powerful emotional experiences that keep us coming back for more. Our free time is shaped by what makes us feel the most alive and satisfied.

# 5. **The Link Between Emotions and Consumption**
– Consumption isn’t just about meeting physical needs; it’s deeply tied to our emotions. We buy things to feel a certain way. Whether it’s a new gadget, a designer bag, or even food, we often choose items based on how they’ll make us feel rather than pure necessity.

– Marketing and advertising strategies hinge on this fact. They don’t sell the product itself—they sell the emotions associated with owning that product: success, luxury, comfort, and sometimes even nostalgia or excitement. Our consumption patterns highlight how much we’re driven by the emotions we want to experience.

# 6. **Avoidance of Negative Emotions**
– Just as much as we’re motivated to chase positive emotions, we’re also motivated to avoid negative ones. This avoidance can influence our behavior just as strongly, if not more so, than the pursuit of positive feelings. We avoid confrontation because we want to sidestep discomfort. We might procrastinate on tasks that create stress. Or we steer clear of certain environments or people that bring us anxiety or frustration.

– This constant balancing act—seeking the emotions we want and dodging the ones we don’t—explains much of our daily decision-making. We’re hardwired to avoid discomfort, even if it sometimes leads to missed opportunities or delayed progress.

# 7. **Emotional Awareness as a Key to Fulfillment**
– Understanding that our actions are driven by emotional needs can empower us to make more intentional choices. When we recognize that what we’re really after is a specific feeling, we can adjust our goals and actions in ways that actually bring us closer to those emotions.

– Instead of assuming external achievements will automatically make us happy, we can focus on cultivating the feelings of fulfillment, joy, or love in our current circumstances. We might still work toward goals, but we’re no longer placing all of our emotional well-being on the idea that they alone will bring happiness.

**Emotions Are the Compass of Life**

When we come to terms with how emotions drive our choices, it can be a transformative realization. Everything from the big life decisions down to the tiny daily habits is influenced by how we want to feel. And when we start acting with this awareness, we can begin aligning our lives with what truly matters to us emotionally.

Understanding this can help us become more compassionate toward ourselves and others. Everyone is, in essence, pursuing the emotions they most desire, even if they don’t always know it. When we accept this, we can start living with a more intentional approach, taking each step with the clarity that we’re not just chasing goals—we’re chasing the way we want to feel.

Change Your Language to Change Your Life

The words we use can either build us up or tear us down. Our internal dialogue, the way we communicate with others, and the labels we attach to ourselves profoundly impact our emotional well-being and mental health. If you’ve been feeling stuck, misunderstood, or overwhelmed, the key to finding balance and peace might lie in something as simple—and powerful—as the language you use.

Why Language Matters

Language is more than a way to express ideas—it’s the lens through which we experience and interpret the world. The words you choose to describe your emotions, circumstances, and self-perceptions create patterns in your thinking. Over time, these patterns can shape your reality.

For example, if you consistently refer to yourself as “not good enough” or “a failure,” your brain begins to accept those phrases as truth. These negative affirmations become self-fulfilling prophecies, leading to increased anxiety, depression, or feelings of inadequacy. Conversely, using more compassionate, empowering language can shift your mindset and open doors to growth and healing.

The Science Behind It

Studies have shown that words and language affect the brain. When we use positive language, areas of the brain associated with motivation, resilience, and emotional regulation are activated. On the other hand, negative language triggers the brain’s stress response, reinforcing fear-based thinking and emotional distress.

This means that changing how we speak to ourselves and others isn’t just “positive thinking”—it’s neuroscience. When you practice using more constructive, supportive language, you’re literally rewiring your brain to think more optimistically and cope more effectively.

The Impact on Relationships

The way we communicate with others plays a significant role in the quality of our relationships. Words can be bridges that create deeper connections, or they can be walls that lead to misunderstandings and conflict. Whether you’re navigating personal relationships or work dynamics, effective communication can reduce stress, improve problem-solving, and foster empathy.

As a counselor, I often work with clients to improve communication skills in their relationships. We examine the language they use with their partners, children, colleagues, and friends, and we explore ways to reframe hurtful or defensive speech. By shifting to more thoughtful and compassionate words, you can transform how you relate to others—and how they relate to you.

Reframing Negative Self-Talk

One of the most common challenges clients face is negative self-talk. These are the critical inner voices that tell you you’re not smart enough, successful enough, or worthy of love. In therapy, we work to identify these patterns and reframe them with language that is kind and supportive.

It’s important to create new language that your brain accepts as truthful.  For example, instead of saying, “I always fail,” we can reframe this as, “I’m learning, and it’s okay to make mistakes” or “I’m in the process of getting better every day.” But, it might be too far of a leap to ask your brain to accept the statement, “I always win” as truthful. This subtle shift opens the door to self-compassion and growth. With practice, these new ways of thinking can become second nature, replacing the negative self-talk with affirmations that uplift and empower you.

Words Are Healing

Therapy itself is a space where the power of language is used to foster healing. By creating a safe, non-judgmental environment, we can explore your thoughts and feelings without fear of criticism or shame. In counseling, the words we choose together can help untangle complex emotions, uncover underlying issues, and guide you toward greater clarity and peace.

Through intentional use of language, you’ll begin to rewrite your story in a way that honors your strengths, acknowledges your struggles, and highlights the possibility for change.

Ready for a Change?

If you find yourself stuck in patterns of negative thinking, harsh self-criticism, or strained relationships, you can shift it.  Therapy provides a space where we can examine your language and patterns of thought together, helping you gain the tools to transform your mindset and improve your emotional well-being.

You deserve to experience the power of words in a way that fosters healing and growth. Change your language to change your life.

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